Sensual Solitude

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of or arousing gratification of the senses and physical, especially sexual, pleasure.


the state or situation of being alone


We are never taught to love ourselves

To love our own bodies


We are taught to know the touch of another’s hand

To want and desire this touch

But we are not taught to know and love our own

Touch

We are not taught to

Desire

Our own touch

But who is better at servicing the body we inhabit

24/7


At one point i started putting hormones into

This body

And then

This body

Changed

It was a new body


It was a new landscape

And i became an

Explorer


I scouted out this new

Terraine

Surveyed the crests

Discovered the caverns


I began to accept this

Sexual body


I had a partner at the time

Whose narcissism

Could not tolerate

This new found love of my own

Body

As it meant that the time

I spent exploring

Myself

I was not exploring them

I was not satiating their

Desire

For me to be an extension

Of them

I was not servicing their need

For my servitude


I tried to hide

My new found

Hobby

From them


The more i enjoyed myself

The less i want to submit

To their coercive subjugation


The rift grew

My independence over

My own body

Grew

I now wanted

Independence

Over my life


My love for myself became a

Threat


Our system

Maintains control

By teaching us

Not to love

Ourselves


When we seek others to affirm

Our sense of self

We give over our power

Self love is a

Radical act

For those of us who are

Marginalized

This might be thee most

Radical act


When we say not only

I have a right to exist

But also say

I have a right to feel pleasure


We learn to say

I have a right to autonomy

I have a right to love myself


These are radical acts

These are acts that we are

Punished for

These are words that

Empower us

These are words that

Take our power back

These are radical words


The power to make ourselves feel good

Creates autonomy

Negates control

Empowers the marginalized


What would our world look like if we were

To be

Empowered

Autonomous


What better lovers

Would we be

If we

Knew our own bodies

Loved our own bodies

Revelled in our own bodies

If we loved our skin

Be it

Red, brown, black

If we loved our gender

Be it

Trans, female, male


If we loved our hair

Black, kinky, thick, straight


If we loved our lips

Thick, thin, lipsticked


If we love our eyes

Round, almond, hazel, brown


If we love our noses

Flat, pointy, crucid


If we love our hips

Curvy, big, flat


If we explore these places

If we love these places

If we vocalize our love for these places


If we refuse dates because

We want to instead love ourselves


Sorry i cannot go out to night

I am going to have hot steamy sex with myself

I aint even gonna make it to the club

Because i am feeling myself and i feel good


I’m sure sex with you is great

But can you make me orgasm as hard as i can

Can you make me cum and cum again


Just writing this i am getting a hard on

For myself

I can’t wait to be finished so i can get off


But first i want to insure that you

Understand

I want you to also find

Sensual solitude

I want your hands to caress your body

I want your skin to tingle at your own touch

I want your nipples to get hard and erect

I want the blood to flow into your penis/clit until it throbs

I want juices to flow

I want you to get flushed

At the thought of yourself


I want you to join me in this

Radical act of

Self love



smitty buckler